Ethan had a slow morning, a little groggy...didn't know what he wanted for breakfast, rushed shower. Last night was his soccer pizza party and I think he had a little too much party. There were some tears over breakfast and over brushing his teeth and who knows why else. So we drive to school and as I pull up I look back and he is crying. So Ash says her good byes and we decide to park until we can get the tears out. Than he tells me "I don't want to go to school today, I really just don't feel like going today." Me: "Ummm....it's not really an option, you just go." He didn't know why he didn't want to go, he said he had a bad morning, he said he was tired, he said he was just feeling sad, he said he was upset over the C on his Math test, he just DID NOT want to go to school today. 15 minutes later we are still talking it out and he is still crying. I had no idea what to do...so we just sat there. I asked him if it was about his friends, "no", was someone picking on him or being mean, "no", I even asked if he had a girlfriend and they broke up, and that was a "NO". So I told him that I guess he could go to work with me and than home HOWEVER he would have no TV and no iPad and no computer for a week. If he is truly upset over his grades he needs to spend extra time on his work. So I told him he had to spend all extra time at the dining room table for the next week. I really thought this would change his mind but he said "ok, deal."
My husband said I needed to send him to school, he needs to know he can't just "not do something because he doesn't want to"....and I totally agree. I don't know if I did the right thing but it is done and we are moving on. I hate that I can't get inside his brain to see what is wrong but I do know that I get sad, I know that I get upset at myself for things I think I have failed. I get all that, so I guess it is ok for my 11 yr old son to feel that way too.
And tomorrow is a new day.
Because I need a smile after this morning....I have been admiring this picture. This boy LOVES his food....and I love him.
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